
Ignore That Facebook Request – It Wasn’t From Me.
As you probably know, I am very serious about my facebook. I’m also very serious about the way we use facebook and that we are, just like in real life, following a social code and agreement of conduct. Those that break that code, get kicked of my facebook, just like in real life. Simple rules really that start with kindness and respect all the way down to a zero tolerance for spamming. Spamming is a think line easily crossed and its something I am always sensitive about – both receiving and giving. Thank God Zuckerberg (The Facebook God) made it possible to limit what you see and who you see it from or I would be deleting people left right and center and they would be deleting me too.
Building Your Social Network
Last year, as you may have noticed, I decided to try and build my social network on facebook in a positive and constructive manner. This was a new years resolution of mine. I went from 700 friends to almost 2500 in one year. I increased my use by 500% and really gave it my all. Some of you love it (thank you for that) and some of you (more than I am willing to realize) hate it. But you guys can go join hatebook or erase me or make it so I dont show up in your newsfeed. Many of you were added by me and some of you even added me. What I promised to myself and to some of you, that being facebook friends with me would be anything but boring. Maybe at times a little over self indulgent (my favourite part of school was show and tell) but I would use this connection I had with you to share insight into my world and to share information that we all I need to talk about. Most of all I want Facebook to be a place for discussion, possible change, and to promote innovation. I have built many good friends through this medium and along the way met many haters (they wont be reading this because of my long list of blocked people – always growing, I might add). The best thing about facebook is you choose how and who you want to interact with.
With that “friendship” there is a trust that is built based on our mutual credibility of what we talk about and what we recommend. Today I was provoked to write this blog post. I saw that someone liked something on a site. Just so I won’t get unneccessarily sued and to save face, I’ll leave the name of the company out. So lets call the site “Shite” for now. Within minutes of signing up, they messaged all my friends on Facebook who were affiliated with this Shite before hand. Now before you sign up to be my friend on Shite (I have since deleted my account) – please read what I have to say. First of all, I had no idea what Shite was and this was the first I had ever seen anything about it. What I wanted to see, I learned you can only see through signing up.
The Value and Problem with Facebook Connect

Now with Facebook connect, you can sign up immediately and skip the whole “fill out the form process”. Good right? Except that dubious “accept” you have to do when it says they can access your Facebook. A Necessary evil in being social media lazy. I hate filling out forms so I Facebook connect everything I can. If its cool, I’ll keep it, if it aint, I will let it go – just like my Facebook friends (and some of my real ones too but that’s another post on a more personal blog that I have yet to start – no one reads blogs anyway – yet another post)
So I sign up, I accept that I let them access my facebook and away I go, right? I figure it cant be that bad. They aren’t going to message my ex girlfriend or anything, right? Well first of all – I didn’t even get a minute to look at this site because the reason I originally signed up was dubious anyway. I thought I could watch something but all I could really do was like it? Sounded stupid. The point is: I didn’t even have time to look when I realized that my entire friends (all 2500 of them) were messaged on my behalf “inviting them to join this Shite”.
I was furious. No one talks to my friends except me. I dont even like when people promote their stuff on my wall without asking me. And especially when the people at Shite were making it like I was doing this. I never invited anyone. I was just looking at the site. They basically impersonated me, used my credibility to push their garbage.
When I click “accept” on facebook connect I am hoping that they respect my privacy and my trust I place in them when giving them access to my facebook. Well “Shite” don’t think so, so I immediately erased any association with them and with this blog I apologize to all my friends who trust me and who I hope to have credibility with.
I wrote them this letter:
support@”shite”.com
I thought your site was interesting but because you decided as part of the function – to email all my Facebook friends – its a total lack of respect for my personal network and shows me that you don’t really get social media
its against everything I believe
too bad – I have a great network filled with great people and would have taken the time to explore what your Shite was about and the gladly share with them but you break some serious social behavior codes by using that as your first interaction.
You could have just made a post on my wall that I signed up. I should choose who to email and notify.
Maybe you will take that into consideration. I’m gonna write about you guys in the meantime. would love to hear your feedback on why you choose to overlook the trust of the consumer by posing as them when reaching further marketing efforts. sure you may get some people to sign up that way but there is no way it sticks. pun intended.
Good luck.”
Beware of Social Climbers
It wasn’t enough that I signed up for Shite and was generally interested. They were more interested in my social network then they were in me. They broke my trust without establishing any relationship with me and went over my head straight to my friends.
This is social climbing and I know enough of those people in real life. I get rid of those people as soon as I realize that so I certainly wont tolerate it online
Blocked.